Why You Should Attend Family Mediation?

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Incoming changes to the Family Procedure Rules aim to encourage separating couples genuinely to explore mediation before opting for court proceedings. Mediation is a powerful and effective forum that can help in resolving family issues without the need for court.

There are many benefits to Family Mediation, including:

Faster resolution

Family mediation can be a quicker way to resolve disagreements compared to long, drawn-out, court proceedings and allow for a more fluid communication between you. Often, more can be covered in one mediation session than could be achieved from weeks of correspondence between solicitors.

Being able to come to a conclusion in a more timely manner keeps stress to a minimum and means that you can both move forward.


The breakdown of a relationship can create a lot of financial uncertainty and unexpected costs. Going through mediation can help keep costs to a minimum and provides a cheaper alternative to expensive court proceedings. Costs for mediation are shared between you and can help you avoid incurring the substantial legal fees that going to court would involve.

To help with costs, the government is also introducing new £500.00 vouchers for family mediation for those who are eligible.  Find out whether you would be eligible for a voucher here https://www.gov.uk/guidance/family-mediation-voucher-scheme#eligibility.

Preservation of relationships

Court proceedings positions separating couples ‘against’ each other, when often they are working towards a mutual end goal. Mediation is a forum which allows for a reduced conflict and the preservation of a civil working relationship moving forward. A mediator will not try to reconcile the relationship but will enable effective communication between you, allowing you to move forwards in resolving issues, and help you to leave on good terms. Thus, mediation can help keep stress to a minimum.

This is particularly important where children are involved, as you will need to continue to communicate. Cultivating healthy methods of communicating also models positive behaviour to the children.


Mediation offers a more flexible approach, tailored to your particular circumstances and not confined by the remedies set in law. This means consideration can be given to things which might be important to a separating couple that might not necessarily be taken into consideration by the court. This can often result in outcomes that are more suited to your specific circumstances. Mediation sessions can look at all issues, or be limited to specific concerns or areas.

Further down the line it is easier to make changes to arrangements that have been made by agreement. This allows for flexibility as time goes on and allows for solutions that can adapt to changing circumstances.

The date, time and length of mediation sessions are also agreed by you, rather than dictated by the court, meaning that you can schedule sessions around your other commitments and you can also have those sessions by remote means if you wish.


Rather than having an outcome imposed on you, mediation empowers you both to offer your own solutions and suggest your own compromises. A mediator’s role is very different to that of a judge and involves assisting you to come to your own solutions.

Court proceedings are ‘adversarial’ which means there is some element of ‘winning’ or ‘losing’ the case.  In contrast, mediation allows you to compromise and to come to an agreement that is suitable for everyone. In this sense, the outcome of mediation is likely to be a ‘win-win’.

Agreements reached through mediation are more likely to be adhered to because you are involved in your own solutions. There is a sense of ownership which encourages you both to stick to the arrangements in the long term.

Overall, mediation offers a faster, more cost-effective way to resolve family issues, which puts you at the centre of the solution. It promotes healthy communication, mutual understanding, and helps you reach outcomes that are fair, workable and meaningful for you and your children.



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